infidelity
Posted: Wed Mar 07, 2012 12:06 pm
I recently read an article on Baha'i' thought about adultery by Phillipe Copeland and how people survive it and get through it when possible. It made me think about this question which no one mentioned in the discussion and maybe it was because the answer is so obvious.
From your understanding of the Writings/religion/spirituality should unfaithful acts be told to your spouse?
Is it dishonest to conceal them from your spouse?
" The sinner, when his heart is free from all save God, must seek forgiveness from God alone. Confession before the servants (i.e. before men) is not permissible, for it is not the means or the cause of Divine Forgiveness. Such confession before the creatures leads to one’s humiliation and abasement, and God—exalted by His Glory—does not wish for the humiliation of His servants. Verily He is 85 Compassionate and Beneficent. The sinner must, between himself and God, beg for mercy from the Sea of Mercy and implore pardon from the Heaven of Forgiveness. "
-is this quote just about forgiveness before others and separate from honesty within a marriage, ie one tells their spouse out of honesty and not as a confession?
Is it a case by case decision or a self evident spiritual law to tell your partner? "
Does i tmake any difference if technical adultery was not committed but betrayal through unchaste acts was. Does the degree of offence even matter with regards to 'confessing' to spouse.
What does God want from us? other than obviously breaking His laws in the first place.
From your understanding of the Writings/religion/spirituality should unfaithful acts be told to your spouse?
Is it dishonest to conceal them from your spouse?
" The sinner, when his heart is free from all save God, must seek forgiveness from God alone. Confession before the servants (i.e. before men) is not permissible, for it is not the means or the cause of Divine Forgiveness. Such confession before the creatures leads to one’s humiliation and abasement, and God—exalted by His Glory—does not wish for the humiliation of His servants. Verily He is 85 Compassionate and Beneficent. The sinner must, between himself and God, beg for mercy from the Sea of Mercy and implore pardon from the Heaven of Forgiveness. "
-is this quote just about forgiveness before others and separate from honesty within a marriage, ie one tells their spouse out of honesty and not as a confession?
Is it a case by case decision or a self evident spiritual law to tell your partner? "
Does i tmake any difference if technical adultery was not committed but betrayal through unchaste acts was. Does the degree of offence even matter with regards to 'confessing' to spouse.
What does God want from us? other than obviously breaking His laws in the first place.